Do you feel like you’re someone everyone counts on, never to give up? The one who pushes through when others would quit, who sees projects to completion no matter what? If that sounds like you, this might be a difficult thought to hold: Your persistence could be working against you. We’ve all been taught that …
Do you feel emotions much more intensely than the people around you? Perhaps you’ve been told you’re “too sensitive” or that you need to “toughen up.” We need to challenge what society teaches us about feeling. Acknowledging your feelings isn’t a weakness; it’s a core component of emotional intelligence. In fact, people who experience emotions …
Author’s Note: This story was shared anonymously by a reader. Writing this has been part of my own grieving process. I hope that sharing our family’s story might bring some meaning to a senseless loss and help others who are walking this same path. My mother was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia, which impacts personality, behavior, …
Your friend Sarah just texted to say that dinner plans have been canceled. Do you start spiraling about your ruined evening, or do you think, “Great, now I can try that new recipe I’ve wanted to make”? That difference? It’s called cognitive (or psychological) flexibility, which might be the most important mental skill you didn’t …
You spent an hour on Sunday mapping out your values. You read articles, journaled, and maybe even talked with a friend about what matters most. You identified your top five. You felt clear, even energized. Then Monday hit. Your boss asked if you could take on another project. Someone invited you to serve on a …
You know what you should do. You’ve made the lists, set your intentions, and promised yourself that this time will be different. But when your boss asks you to take on one more project when you’re already drowning, when your friend texts about plans but you’re completely drained, when you’re standing in front of the …
You used to know who you were. Now you stand in the grocery store, staring at cereal boxes, unable to make a simple decision. The you from two years ago had opinions about everything. This version of you can barely remember what you like for breakfast. Or maybe it shows up differently. You snap at …
You wake up one morning and nothing feels familiar, even though you’re in the same bed you’ve slept in for years. The divorce papers are signed. Your youngest just left for college. You retired last month. You moved across the country for a fresh start. Suddenly, the routines that once defined you have fallen away. …
Your personal values are like an internal compass. When you align with them, decisions become clearer and your day flows more steadily. You feel “off when you drift,” even if you can’t explain why. Here’s what makes values work challenging: You’ve probably absorbed other people’s “shoulds” your whole life. Parents, culture, Instagram, your industry; everyone …
It’s 2 AM. Your child has a fever; your boss needs that report by 9. Welcome to single parenting, where you’re not just juggling. You’re running the whole circus with no intermission. You’re in charge of every ring: childcare, work, bills, bedtime stories, broken faucets, and the steady stream of emotional support your kids need. …
You’re a social worker, and you just closed your laptop after documenting your second child abuse case this week. You drive home, but you can’t stop seeing that little girl’s face. At dinner, your partner asks about your day, and you snap at them over nothing. Later, you lie awake replaying the conversation with the …
Parenting a neurodivergent child, someone whose brain processes and experiences the world differently, such as with ADHD or autism, can be both significant and incredibly challenging. It often requires learning how to balance your child’s unique needs with your own boundaries and emotional well-being. Many caregivers pour so much energy into supporting their child that …
At the heart of every strong connection, whether it’s with a romantic partner, family member, or best friend, is a sense of emotional safety. It’s what makes us feel like we can open up, show how we really feel, and be met with care instead of criticism. But if you’ve experienced inconsistent caregiving or been …
Feeling drained, foggy, or like your spark at work has fizzled? You’re not alone. Many high achievers hit this wall and assume they’ve lost their work ethic. Burnout is really your body’s warning light: stress has emptied the tank. Seeing it this way reduces shame and opens the door to actual healing. What Is Burnout, …
Hypervigilance is often associated with trauma responses. It shows up in those moments when the nervous system kicks into high alert, scanning your surroundings for danger, even when none is immediately present. While we typically think of this in the context of personal safety, hypervigilance can also quietly infiltrate the workplace, affecting performance, relationships, and …
In the journey of parenting, we bring our whole selves—our hopes, values, and sometimes, our wounds. One of the less visible but deeply influential patterns that can shape our parenting is hypervigilance. It often appears quietly, but it can significantly impact both how we respond to our children and how they learn to feel safe …
Friendship is often felt as a safe harbor, a place where we can rest, be seen, and feel understood. But for many of us who carry histories of trauma, abuse, or betrayal, even the safest shores can feel unpredictable. Hypervigilance, a typical trauma response, can shape how we approach relationships, leaving us caught between craving …
Most of us brush past thoughts of our own mortality while we’re busy living life. I know I have—and still do. But I’ve also found a sense of empowerment in embracing the reality that life is finite. What Would You Do With Two Years? Several years ago, I came across an article called The Nun …
In a world that often demands more than we can comfortably give, the body can shift into a state of hypervigilance—a constant sense of alertness and readiness to react. This is a survival response, rooted in our nervous system, but when it becomes chronic, it can feel exhausting, overwhelming, and difficult to shift out of. …
Have you ever felt stuck in high alert mode, like your mind won’t stop scanning for what might go wrong? Maybe you feel the tension in your shoulders, your jaw, your gut — and even in moments that should feel safe, your body is ready for something bad to happen. That’s hypervigilance. And it can …