At the heart of every strong connection, whether with a romantic partner, a family member, or a best friend, is a sense of emotional safety. It allows us to open up, share hard feelings, and feel understood, even when we’re not at our best. But for many of us, especially those who’ve been in an …
Feeling drained, foggy, or like your spark at work has fizzled? You’re not alone. Many high achievers hit this wall and assume they’ve lost their work ethic. Burnout is really your body’s warning light: stress has emptied the tank. Seeing it this way reduces shame and opens the door to actual healing. What Is Burnout, …
Hypervigilance is often associated with trauma responses. It shows up in those moments when the nervous system kicks into high alert, scanning your surroundings for danger, even when none is immediately present. While we typically think of this in the context of personal safety, hypervigilance can also quietly infiltrate the workplace, affecting performance, relationships, and …
In the journey of parenting, we bring our whole selves—our hopes, values, and sometimes, our wounds. One of the less visible but deeply influential patterns that can shape our parenting is hypervigilance. It often appears quietly, but it can significantly impact both how we respond to our children and how they learn to feel safe …
Friendship is often felt as a safe harbor, a place where we can rest, be seen, and feel understood. But for many of us who carry histories of trauma, abuse, or betrayal, even the safest shores can feel unpredictable. Hypervigilance, a typical trauma response, can shape how we approach relationships, leaving us caught between craving …
Most of us brush past thoughts of our own mortality while we’re busy living life. I know I have—and still do. But I’ve also found a sense of empowerment in embracing the reality that life is finite. What Would You Do With Two Years? Several years ago, I came across an article called The Nun …
In a world that often demands more than we can comfortably give, the body can shift into a state of hypervigilance—a constant sense of alertness and readiness to react. This is a survival response, rooted in our nervous system, but when it becomes chronic, it can feel exhausting, overwhelming, and difficult to shift out of. …
Have you ever felt stuck in high alert mode, like your mind won’t stop scanning for what might go wrong? Maybe you feel the tension in your shoulders, your jaw, your gut — and even in moments that should feel safe, your body is ready for something bad to happen. That’s hypervigilance. And it can …
Loneliness is often viewed as something to escape. But what if we could adapt to loneliness in ways that build resilience, deepen self-awareness, and even improve our health? In a world where more than one-third of adults report feeling lonely (CDC, 2023), learning to adapt to loneliness isn’t just helpful — it’s essential. Here are …
Anger is a natural human emotion, but when left unchecked, it can negatively impact our relationships, mental well-being, and overall quality of life. While anger itself isn’t inherently harmful, how we respond to it makes all the difference. Breathwork is a powerful tool that can help regulate emotions, calm the nervous system, and prevent anger …
That sudden heat, that clenching in your jaw – it’s anger. But what if that anger isn’t just a bad feeling? What if it’s whispering profound truths about the deeper layers of what’s happening inside you? This isn’t just about managing anger; it’s about carefully decoding the specific, often veiled messages within the feeling itself. …
Anger is a natural human emotion, yet it often carries a negative stigma. Many of us fear expressing anger due to the potential consequences—hurt feelings, damaged relationships, or regret. However, anger itself is not inherently bad; rather, it’s how we handle and express it that determines whether it serves us constructively or destructively. Below is …
That flash of heat? The tight feeling in your chest? That’s anger. But what if that anger is actually trying to tell you something important about you? Instead of just trying to push it down, what if you could learn to hear what it’s saying? Underneath anger, there are often other feelings and needs. When …
Anxiety can sneak up on you in everyday moments or feel like a heavy cloud that never quite lifts. It can show up as racing thoughts, trouble breathing, a tight chest, or a sense that something bad is about to happen. For some, it builds up into panic attacks—those sudden, intense waves of fear that …
Relationships can be a beautiful source of love, connection, and personal growth. But when the balance of power shifts—whether due to people-pleasing, insecurity, or unhealthy relationship dynamics—it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost control of your life. Taking power back isn’t about gaining the upper hand or creating a power struggle. It’s about self-respect, setting …
Understanding PTSD and Trauma in Relationships Loving someone who has experienced a traumatic event—whether it was military combat, sexual assault, domestic violence, or a natural disaster—requires patience, empathy, and a deep understanding of how post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can affect their daily life. PTSD is more than just painful memories; it can reshape how a …
Parenting is one of the most rewarding and challenging roles in life. It can bring deep connection, joy, and love—but for many, it also comes with fear, self-doubt, and old wounds from childhood. If you grew up in a home with intergenerational trauma, adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), or emotionally unavailable caregivers, you might struggle with …
Trauma leaves deep imprints on how we see ourselves, relate to others, and navigate the world. If your early childhood experiences lacked emotional support, guidance, or stability, you might still feel the effects today in the form of self-doubt, emotional dysregulation, or difficulty building healthy relationships. But healing is possible. Re-parenting your inner child allows …
Breathing is something we do without thinking, every moment of our lives. It’s the first thing we do when we enter the world and the last thing we do before we leave. But beyond keeping us alive, our breath is also one of the most powerful tools for healing—especially for those recovering from trauma. If …
Trauma doesn’t stay neatly tucked in the past. It can color the way you wake up, move through the day, and imagine tomorrow. If you notice waves of sadness, exhaustion, or numbness long after a painful event, you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. Understanding how trauma and depression intertwine is the first step toward …