Do you ever find yourself saying “yes” when you really mean “no”? Have you stayed quiet during a conversation where someone crossed a line, then spent hours afterward replaying what you wished you’d said? If this sounds familiar, you’re definitely not alone. We hear a lot about building individual resilience and that inner strength to …
You know how some people seem to roll with life’s punches while others get knocked down for weeks? We’ve all got that friend who loses their job and somehow bounces back with an even better opportunity, or that colleague who handles family drama like it’s no big deal. You might think they’re just naturally tougher …
I love working with couples. Despite being more complex than individual therapy, it is profoundly rewarding to assist a couple in finding renewed connection with their partner and with themselves. It is here, in the partnership, that each partner sees themself as they are and not just how they want to be. It is here, …
Do you feel like you’re someone everyone counts on, never to give up? The one who pushes through when others would quit, who sees projects to completion no matter what? If that sounds like you, this might be a difficult thought to hold: Your persistence could be working against you. We’ve all been taught that …
Do you feel emotions much more intensely than the people around you? Perhaps you’ve been told you’re “too sensitive” or that you need to “toughen up.” We need to challenge what society teaches us about feeling. Acknowledging your feelings isn’t a weakness; it’s a core component of emotional intelligence. In fact, people who experience emotions …
Author’s Notes: This story was shared anonymously by a reader. Writing this has been part of my own grieving process. My hope is that sharing our family’s story might bring some meaning to a senseless loss and help others who are walking this same path. My mother was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia, which impacts personality, …
Your friend Sarah just texted to say that dinner plans have been canceled. Do you start spiraling about your ruined evening, or do you think, “Great, now I can try that new recipe I’ve wanted to make”? That difference? It’s called cognitive (or psychological) flexibility, which might be the most important mental skill you didn’t …
You’ve spent time thinking about what matters to you. You may have even identified your core values and understand how your brain responds when choices align with those values. But you’re still spending hours spinning on decisions, second-guessing yourself, or choosing paths that leave you feeling off course. Knowing your values is just the starting …
Values are not just nice words on a wall. Your brain uses them as shortcuts for choices, motivation, and self-control. When a decision matches what matters to you, the parts of the brain that track “this fits me” and “this feels rewarding” light up. When you live out of sync with your values, stress rises …
When life knocks the wind out of you, it can feel like you do not recognize yourself. Burnout, trauma, loss, or sudden change can scramble the roles and routines that once made life make sense. That disorientation is not a failure. It is your nervous system saying, “The old way stopped working.” You can steady …
You wake up one morning and nothing feels familiar, even though you’re in the same bed you’ve slept in for years. A new job, divorce, becoming a parent, retirement, or moving across town can shake the routines that once defined you. When the old structure falls away, it’s common to feel untethered and to ask, …
Your personal values are like an internal compass. When you align with them, decisions become clearer and your day flows more steadily. You feel “off when you drift,” even if you can’t explain why. Here’s what makes values work challenging: You’ve probably absorbed other people’s “shoulds” your whole life. Parents, culture, Instagram, your industry; everyone …
It’s 2 AM. Your child has a fever; your boss needs that report by 9. Welcome to single parenting, where you’re not just juggling. You’re running the whole circus with no intermission. You’re in charge of every ring: childcare, work, bills, bedtime stories, broken faucets, and the steady stream of emotional support your kids need. …
If your work brings you face-to-face with crises, it can quietly change your mental health. Firefighters, EMTs, law enforcement officers, and therapists may witness traumatic events in person, while nurses, healthcare providers, social workers, teachers, and family caregivers often absorb traumatic stories through sessions, reports, and calls. Whether the exposure is direct or indirect, repeated …
Parenting a neurodivergent child, someone whose brain processes and experiences the world differently, such as with ADHD or autism, can be both significant and incredibly challenging. It often requires learning how to balance your child’s unique needs with your own boundaries and emotional well-being. Many caregivers pour so much energy into supporting their child that …
At the heart of every strong connection, whether it’s with a romantic partner, family member, or best friend, is a sense of emotional safety. It’s what makes us feel like we can open up, show how we really feel, and be met with care instead of criticism. But if you’ve experienced inconsistent caregiving or been …
Feeling drained, foggy, or like your spark at work has fizzled? You’re not alone. Many high achievers hit this wall and assume they’ve lost their work ethic. Burnout is really your body’s warning light: stress has emptied the tank. Seeing it this way reduces shame and opens the door to actual healing. What Is Burnout, …
Hypervigilance is often associated with trauma responses. It shows up in those moments when the nervous system kicks into high alert, scanning your surroundings for danger, even when none is immediately present. While we typically think of this in the context of personal safety, hypervigilance can also quietly infiltrate the workplace, affecting performance, relationships, and …
In the journey of parenting, we bring our whole selves—our hopes, values, and sometimes, our wounds. One of the less visible but deeply influential patterns that can shape our parenting is hypervigilance. It often appears quietly, but it can significantly impact both how we respond to our children and how they learn to feel safe …
Friendship is often felt as a safe harbor, a place where we can rest, be seen, and feel understood. But for many of us who carry histories of trauma, abuse, or betrayal, even the safest shores can feel unpredictable. Hypervigilance, a typical trauma response, can shape how we approach relationships, leaving us caught between craving …